Christian Family Services Ministry

1-4-2023 – A Word to the Wise – Women and Wisdom:

Using Womanly Wisdom. So if the woman possesses insight, how does she use it? How does the woman even get the man to listen? How does the wise woman reveal to her husband wise choices? The answer is a hard one; she must wait on the Lord. The woman cannot force her husband to pay attention to her ideas and to make use of her insight. The Lord must act on the husband’s heart and make him realize the value of listening to his wife. Kim, a former shared how the Lord brought this about in her marriage. Here is that story.

Several years ago, I had a couple in counseling. The husband was very intelligent. He had risen very high in one of the top ten accounting companies. His opinion of his wife’s definition of wise financial investment bordered on thinking her to be incompetent. Why, he reasoned, invest one’s money in a bank where one collects four or five percent interest, when one can invest it elsewhere and get sixteen percent?

The Lord wanted to address a much deeper problem in James’ life. After fifteen years of marriage, it was time to learn the importance of listening to his wife. Kim shared how the Lord brought this about.

It seems the Lord was prompt Kim to look at the newspaper, something she rarely had time to do. But she starting reading it. At first, she did not know what or why she was doing it; she just felt this intense urge. After awhile, she found herself looking in the business section. Again, she did not know what she was looking for. After a week or so, she found that she was looking for the name of a company in which her husband had invested a sizeable amount of personal and business money. She could find nothing about the company.

After some time, she decided to call the Attorney General of the State to make inquires about the company. Now, knowing this woman and hearing her say she called the Attorney General’s office was quite a shock. It was not ordinary behavior for Kim.

However, the only information she received was a terse reply that they could not respond to her request. Now she was worried. However, she knew it would not do any good to tell her husband, he would merely laugh at her. (Later James acknowledged that this is what he would have done.) A couple of weeks went by. Then, one day they received an official letter stating that the owner of this company had absconded with all of the funds. It was a big financial loss for James. He recognized the Lord as the source of this correction. Most importantly, he learned to listen to his wife, even in an area where he possessed the greater knowledge. You see the Lord wants the man to listen to his wife. Listening does not always mean agreeing. It does mean hearing. There are many answers the Lord gives’ only to the woman just for this reason. It teaches the man to put great value on his wife. When he learns to listen to her and to take seriously her ideas seriously, the woman feels of greater worth. God gives to the woman an insight that often seems illogical to the man.