Christian Family Services Ministry

2-28-2017 – A Word to the Wise: The man makes himself very vulnerable to the woman he has sex with. Her knowledge of him has the potential to destroy him, if misused. By engaging in multiple relationships, the man hopes to weaken his fear and dilute the strength of the woman’s power over him. The woman, on the other hand, must have security if she is to allow this kind of penetration into her being. I suspect many at this point would say: “Nonsense. Sexual relations prior to marriage, or even the number of sex partners does not affect the marriage. Comparisons are used to show how different relationships make a better lover.” However, I would challenge you to think: If there is nothing to compare the sex act with other than one’s experience with one’s mate, then there are no competing or conflicting difficulties introduced into the relationship. If that experience is one of joy, then there is no desire for someone else.

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2-27-2017 – A Word to the Wise: One cannot have premarital relations, be unfaithful in marriage, or have multiple marriages without paying a heavy price. This is one of the central problems that occur in blended families; they just do not mix. We often hear contradictory information as to why a person should wait for marriage to engage in the sexual relationship. I wonder if we really know why. Other than morally, are there reasons? The answer, I believe, lies in how God created woman. Built into her make up are the seeds for her being the fulfillment for her husband. During the first year of marriage, a bonding process occurs. It is a slow process to be sure, but if done properly, no other woman after that first year of marriage will be able to supplant the wife. This bonding process creates a union that emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually affects the couple. It is not founded on how they feel toward each other at the time of marriage. This process cannot begin outside the bonds of marriage, for there is no security for the man or the woman outside this bond. Security is the glue that holds the relationship together.

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2-25-2017 – A Word to the Wise: VII. Relationships – Proverbs 5:18-19 “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely hind, a graceful doe. Let her affection fill you at all times with delight, be infatuated always with her love.” Sex is often sought after for its short-term effects. This may blind one to its long-term treasures. Sex is the cohesive material that holds a relationship together. It is not just an act or series of acts. Sex is an investment in the future—physically, emotionally, and mentally. Sex is an investment in each other’s heritage with an expectation of future return and increase compounded by the measure given.

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2-24-2017 – A Word to the Wise: While my partner continued to talk to the suspect, I started through the apartment. It was dark. It was clean. In the first bedroom, a couple of children were asleep. The room was neat. In the back bedroom, obviously the master bedroom, the bed was still made and a woman’s purse was on the bed, which was strange. A woman rarely leaves home without her purse. I started back and flashed my light in the bathroom. There was blood all over the sink. I returned to the front of the apartment, went into the kitchen, and turned on the light. The sight was appalling. Blood was everywhere, in long streaks down the walls on the refrigerator, the cabinets, everywhere. An ironing board stood in the kitchen with blood on it, and beside it, a garbage can was half-filled with more bloody glass and an old iron, also covered with blood and hair. Bloody footsteps led to the back door and the staircase rails, and the steps were covered in streaks of blood. Returning to the living room and turning on the light, one could see wads of blood and hair on the floor. That is the thought that comes to mind when I read the scripture. Divorce is literally beating the person to death with blood splattering all over your clothes in the process. It is the children who suffer the most from this type of immorality. Is that not the conclusion you reach, as we have looked at the problems that the children experience who come from single-parent families?

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2-23-2017 – A Word to the Wise: He quickly replied,” I was just cleaning up. Here step inside.” As we stepped inside, I noticed that the apartment was dark, but very clean. The cleanness was refreshing. “Can I speak to your wife?” I asked again. “She is not here.” “May I look and then we will be gone.” “Ok,” he said.

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2-22-2017 – A Word to the Wise: There was no sound coming from the apartment except for a television turned low. Looking down, I saw a small garbage pail by the door half-full of bloody broken glass. I noticed he had blood and cuts on his hand. “What happened, I asked?

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2-21-2017 – A Word to the Wise: “Sir, we had a call about a disturbance. Can we come in?” He quickly replied that he was by himself, and there was no need for the police. “Sir, I am sure that is true, but it is cold out here. Can we come in?” “I told you my wife is not here; she is at work.”

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2-18-2017 – A Word to the Wise: “346 received and in route.” It took several minutes to get to the location. The apartment was located up a narrow flight of stairs. It was dark, and it was cold. Taking my heavy flashlight, I knocked, and then beat on the unanswered door. We could hear noise coming from inside the apartment. Finally, a young male opened the door slightly and wanted to know what we wanted. He had on a pair of pants and no shirt, and was sweating profusely. Perspiration was running off of him in buckets with the temperature near 20 degrees. He had a towel in his hand and continually dried himself.

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2-17-2017 A Word to the Wise: It was early in my work as a Dallas Police officer. It was a very cold March evening when my partner and I received a call to the 2600 block of Hatcher, a high crime area in the southern part of Dallas. The cold was bone-chilling, and it was nearly time to get off. “346, you have a family disturbance at 2622 Hatcher, Apartment B. The call comes from a neighbor who says a women has been crying and screaming for nearly thirty minutes.”

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2-16-2017 A Word to the Wise: The first time is always the most vivid. No matter how many times you see it later on, the first time leaves an unforgettable impression. As time goes by, one is deadened to the scene seeing it time and again, but the first time…

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