Christian Family Services Ministry

7-30-2022 – A Word to the Wise – Gifts continued:

We are not saying who should or should not marry rather to understand what goes on with the spouse. So, let’s look at the Organizer and Giver or Server. We put the Giver and Server together since they tend to think and act alike in many similar circumstances. Now all three gifts are physical gifts. The Organizer is a leadership gift and the Giver and Server follower gifts. None of the latter three-process negative emotional situations well. However, like the birth-order situation lets observe a modifying factor. Male-female relationships affect the relationship. But again, let’s put this aside for the moment.

When an Organizer is married to either of these two other gifts if they work together much can be accomplished. This more so than in most situation for these gifts need each other. The leadership abilities of the Organizer if humble can lead these other two gifts in a unique manner. Because all three are physical in nature and have ability to suppress emotional responses it allows for an incredible amount of work to be accomplished.

One also sees that the humanistic concept of male superiority appears here. I am referring to the Islamic concept of male ownership of the woman. Realistically the leadership in a family is fluid. The one leading at any particular time is the one being guided by the Lord. The leadership fluctuates. So, it makes no different if the Organizer in this situation is male or female. The leader does not order but leads. Any attempt to make the follower lead and the Organizer follow will lead to failure.

If the Organizer is female, then another factor comes into play. That is the emotional nature of the woman. Here again we see that there is a distinction between the emotional quality of the Prophet, Exhorter, and Mercy and that of the Organizer. It is two different distinct emotional qualities. I find it difficult to word the distinction. Let me picture it for you.

A mother has just given birth to a first-born male child. The father is standing there. Both exclaim “I love my child”. However, there is a world of difference between what the father feels and what the mother feels. We call it by the same word, but the difference is apparent. Just so, the emotions experienced by the Organizer may look and feel the same but different than the Prophet, Mercy, and Exhorter. The former experiences compassion, the latter empathy.

It is this difference in the emotional structure that allows the female Teacher, Organizer, Giver and Server to appear somewhat different between the male and female. However the gifts function the same.

Moreover, these four may work or be in emotional settings but not be present. Example these gifts will almost never go to a hospital to visit but may well work in a hospital setting. If these four are present in a highly emotional setting, then it is to teach, lead, finance, or labor.