Christian Family Services Ministry

7-4-2022 – A Word to the Wise – On Prayer and Counseling

Less someone think that something special or unique is happening it is not. Every child of God is allowed these experiences if they search for them. There is nothing special about me, I am a great sinner far more so than most.

Counseling and prayer. I would not know what to do or say given the vastly different situations and expectation if it were not for the Lord. There are various areas that I wish to show the Lord revealed to me.

Whenever communication is involved the foremost place to go is teaching about the Motivational Gifts. When a couple realizes the positive and negative effects of the gifts then it becomes easier to work with the problems involved. Let’s look at some examples.

One is a Server, (or Giver) the other Exhorter (Could be a Prophet or Mercy). When they marry problems are predictable. The Server is a physical person that distance negative emotional situations. When conflict develops the Server avoids or uses passive aggressive measures to put distance between them and the distress.

The Lord revealed many years ago a very simple interaction needs to occur. The Exhorter must translate for the Server in the same manner one translates in a foreign language. How does that happen? If the Exhorter says ‘I am anxious: it goes beyond the ability of the Server to grasp. Instead, it must be put in physical terms. The Exporter goes to a chalk board and scrapes their fingernails against it and says to the Server, that is what I am feeling. Put in physical terms the Server now understands.

Different situation. Prophets and Mercies marry 70% of the time. Why, they are opposite individuals, why drawn to each other? The Lord explained it this way. When they have children, the Mercy will not discipline, the Prophet on the other hand is direct and absolute. Their joint discipline provides just the proper temperament the child needs. Otherwise, the child would be spoiled, or abuse. The parents must cooperate and accept each other’s role.

One other matter about communication. Scripture makes it very clear how one is to communicate in certain matters. Specifically, Proverbs 9:7-8 makes it crystal clear you do not argue with foolishness. If you do, you’re a fool. So, when you have these arguments going on with a couple both are acting foolishly and at least one must be taught how to respond in such matters.

In Matthew 5:25 the Lord points out a discerning wise reply. That is “Agree with your enemy quickly,” you’re not agreeing they are right, rather that is what they believe, and you do not argue with what they believe less you find yourself being foolish.

These are just primary steps when the difficulty is communication. So, what other types of problems does the Lord have solutions for?