Christian Family Services Ministry

3-4-3017 – A Word to the Wise: As a counselor, I have seen many newly married people unable to understand why they feel incompatible. After all, they say they lived together two years before they got married, just to see if they would be compatible. It seems marriage wipes out the prior adjustment. The nature of the marriage relationship begins with a covenant, which brings certain pledges, privileges, and responsibilities. These pledges provide the foundation for intimacy. One finds intimacy difficult in an atmosphere of insecurity. Satan knows he cannot duplicate the sense of pleasure and contentment that is possible in marriage. Thus he masks the purpose of sex by focusing on the outward appearance of woman and the ability to entangle the man in a web of lies. These lies lead to sexual addiction, for the imitation lacks the satisfaction of the real thing. The real thing brings fulfilling companionship. Because Satan’s substitute does not work, it is sought repeatedly in hopes of attaining that which it promises, but fails to deliver. Understanding this principle leads to the discovery that no immoral person possesses true knowledge of the Lord’s precious gift. God does not give knowledge of good to evil people. Satan perverts good and delivers as a substitute an immoral act incapable of providing a real sense of companionship. Instead, it provides just the opposite—a deep sense of emptiness and loneliness, making one hunger and yearn even more intensely.