Christian Family Services Ministry

3-2-2017 – A Word to the Wise: Moreover, during the first year of marriage, a fit is made. A multiple of factors are involved—size, shape, depth, smell, and our brain cells commit to memory every little detail. Our spirits bond to that person in a manner that can never be duplicated. Sure, you can find the cheap variety pack that fits everyone, but it is just not the same. With what can we compare the fitting process that takes place in the marriage relationship? Perhaps to the embryo that grows in the mother’s womb for nine months—the immune system accepts the fetus and it grows to fit the mother. Or the fitting process might also be compared to buying a pair of shoes. As they are worn, they are broken in to fit that particular foot. A physical fitting occurs sexually in much this same way. Sure two people can have sex with many other people; they do it all the time, but it is not the same. Have you ever noticed the shape of women’s stockings when they come out of those little eggs? What happens when she puts them on? They now fit her. What if someone else puts her hose on? They do not fit properly. Sure, a woman can have sex with more than one man, but the fit is now generic, not unique. So, what occurs when there are a number of partners? A very poor fit. You can use pliers to loosen a bolt or the proper size wrench made to fit it. The pliers do the job, but the risk of damage is much greater. One can put a 100-watt bulb in a 40-watt socket, but the risk of fire is much greater. One may put a 100-watt bulb in a 300- watt socket, but the output is much dimmer. Notice in I Samuel, David met several wise women of reputation before marriage. These women were smart, intelligent, and wise until they married David; then they disappear from the pages of history. One among many means the woman has far less influence in the life of the husband. There is limited ability for fitting when prior relationships have occurred.