Christian Family Services Ministry

2-27-2017 – A Word to the Wise: One cannot have premarital relations, be unfaithful in marriage, or have multiple marriages without paying a heavy price. This is one of the central problems that occur in blended families; they just do not mix. We often hear contradictory information as to why a person should wait for marriage to engage in the sexual relationship. I wonder if we really know why. Other than morally, are there reasons? The answer, I believe, lies in how God created woman. Built into her make up are the seeds for her being the fulfillment for her husband. During the first year of marriage, a bonding process occurs. It is a slow process to be sure, but if done properly, no other woman after that first year of marriage will be able to supplant the wife. This bonding process creates a union that emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually affects the couple. It is not founded on how they feel toward each other at the time of marriage. This process cannot begin outside the bonds of marriage, for there is no security for the man or the woman outside this bond. Security is the glue that holds the relationship together.